An explanation for the mismatch
Understand why recognizing your history, changing a thought, calming your body, or trying harder each addresses a different part of the work.
THE
STUCK
POINT.
STUCK
POINT.
UNDERSTAND THE NEED.
LOCATE THE PATTERN.
GIVE CHANGE A DIRECTION.
THE BOOK BY KARINE SPIESS
The Stuck Point
You have tried to change.
Understand what the effort was missing.
The story of a life spent trying to understand, and the framework which grew from it. The Stuck Point connects the needs you protect with the patterns you repeat, then asks which kind of work belongs where.
It follows a larger question too: once the loop has less of your life, what do you want your life to hold?
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WHAT THIS BOOK GIVES YOU
A different way to understand
why you have stayed stuck.
Language for the need beneath the pattern
Recognize safety, belonging, esteem, autonomy, and coherence without treating the need itself as an embarrassment.
A map with two coordinates
Bring the need together with an entry point in the loop, so a practice has both a target and a purpose.
A direction beyond relief
Explore the difference between managing discomfort and building connection, choice, self-respect, security, and meaning.
THE STORY IS PART OF THE EXPLANATION
“For the first time, belonging
did not depend on my performance.”
Karine begins with a childhood spent reading the rules from outside. Belonging later became a place to rest. When a relationship ended, the loss unsettled emotional safety and the story she thought she was living.
The questions which followed became clinical questions: what does a pattern protect, what keeps it going, and why does one approach reach a person while another misses? The book lets you follow the inquiry as it becomes a map.
THE COMPLETE ARC
From the mismatch
to the life you build.
23 chapters, followed by
source notes and references.
01The Night Everything Broke
02You’re Not Broken
03The Architecture: How Patterns Take Shape
04The Five Needs
05The Loop: Eight Places to Make a Change
06The Eight Places You Get Stuck
07Why It Keeps Repeating
08Locating Yourself
09The Tools to Map Yourself
10What If You’re Not Ready?
11Regulate (Emotion)
12Reframe (Prediction)
13Widen (Filter)
14Rewrite (Story)
15Replace (Relief)
16Interrupt (Thought)
17Approach (Behavior)
18Redesign (Reinforcement)
19Restore (When Meaning or Trust Comes Apart)
20What Change Actually Feels Like
21The Loop in Real Time
22Building Your Life After the Loop
23One Last Thing
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